"I have always been a successful man, but when my wife filed for divorce I was crushed. Leaving my home, and the routine of life with my wife and children brought me to my knees. What Taylor taught me in this journey through hell both personally and in the justice system, is priceless. I would not be the man that I am now had I not worked with Taylor. It was the most important investment I have ever made in my life. Time and money very well spent."
"When I first met Taylor, I was broken ... unsure of myself, and completely unfamiliar with divorce. I was married for 26 years and never thought I would find myself in this situation, especially at this age in life. Taylor is the most compassionate, empathetic, educated, supportive, and experienced person I know. She understands the legal aspects of divorce and the emotional. She saved my life."
"Ms. Leigh is an extraordinary person. She is amazingly energetic, hard working, and driven to succeed at whatever she chooses to do. She is passionate about helping others, being a proactive member of the community at large, about her work, and life itself. She is an articulate spokesperson ... has a terrific and warm sense of humor ..."
"Taylor saw me through the lowest point in my life; a desperate mother with two babies, barely eating or sleeping from stress and trying to survive in an abusive relationship. I am an educated and intelligent woman. I did not think that this could happen to me. I can honestly say that there is no one who made more of an impact in my journey and healing than Taylor. Her knowledge of the judicial process brought enormous comfort. Taylor listened, she educated me ... she held my hand. Taylor brought me back to life."
"Taylor is a godsend. She has insight and experience that is unmatched. I was court ordered to see a therapist and I will say that my work with Taylor as a Divorce/Life Coach was far more beneficial to me. Taylor shows informed empathy for victims of narcissistic abuse and IPV. I could not have survived this dark and confusing period of my life without her. Life is good again, thanks to Taylor."
"My experience working with Taylor changed my life. I was forced to work with many professionals during the fiasco that was my divorce. Taylor came highly recommended as someone that knows the judicial system well and what it can and cannot do for you. She was the only professional that was HONEST with me and did not lead me down a garden path. I spent more money on meaningless nonsense that got me nowhere. Every dime I spent on Taylor was well worth it. The only check I was happy to write. I still see her on a monthly basis for check ups. She is true and can be trusted. She understands the process of divorce, divorce and children, and all the ins and outs of the divorce"
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1. ASK FOR HELP
CALL ME
I AM HERE TO HELP
2. Invest in yourself
3. Share your truth only with those true and trusted (gather a team)
4. Do not blame yourself, try to seek understanding
5. Be honest
6. Be authentic
7. Leave environments that make you feel bad about yourself
8. Allow yourself time to heal
9. Get down to basics – S.E.E.D.S – Shower, Eat, Exercise, Drink (H2O), Sleep
10. Listen to your voice and what YOU need
11. Understand the difference between Thinking, Feeling, and Acting
(Think, Feel, but don’t Act without careful thought and good advice)
12. Feel your feelings
13. Realize what truly matters and what simply, does not
14. Design a PLAN (Call me – I can help)
15. Appreciate what you DO have
16. Take time for yourself
17. Be kind and forgiving of yourself
18. Embrace the idea of Persistence
19. Choose Self-Respect
20. Find something inspirational and display it (Story, Art, Quote)
21. If there are things that must be done – do the most difficult first
22. PUT THE PHONE DOWN PLEASE
(no late night texts filled with emotion)
Do not text anything you would not want a Judge to see
23. Have faith and trust in the process – this is a journey
24. Consider Divorce Mediation - CALL ME FOR FREE PHONE CONSULT
25. Progress not Perfection
26. Make better choices, they don’t need to be perfect choices
27. Take responsibility for yourself and your path
28. Do the right thing – Live with integrity
29. Say NO
30. Say YES to activities that support and respect you
31. Focus on the NOW
32. Do the work (Actions first, the feelings will follow)
33. Allow yourself to go fetal for a day (but only a day)
34. Understand that new habits and ways of thinking take time
35. Practice, Practice, Practice better self-care
36. When in doubt, don’t
37. Work on new tapes (those voices in your head) and ways of thinking about yourself
38. Imagine something better for yourself (yes, you are worthy)
39. Have compassion for others (look outside yourself – volunteer)
40. Remember: Falling down is part of Life, but getting back up is Living!
41. Take up a new hobby (a close friend of mine took up Hang Gliding during his Divorce)
42. Make a list of your choices (I can help you with that – contact me)
43. Take a class in something you know little about
44. Find a photograph of yourself when you felt happy and self-empowered
45. Kick, scream, and throw a tantrum like a 3 year old (in private)!
46. Realize that you are not alone and that there are resources available to you (I can help)
47. Be still
48. Go to a playground and play (swing for hours)
49. Embrace the idea that you are strong, capable, have value, and that you will get through this
50. # 1 AGAIN, ASK FOR HELP. I’M HERE TO HELP YOU.
Call me, Taylor Leigh, Center for Divorce and Healing 203-560-2501 DivorceMediatorCT@gmail.com
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